Tag: boundaries
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Why Your Self-Esteem Hinges on Setting Boundaries
Most people hear “boundaries” and think of fences, ways to keep others out. But what if boundaries are actually the foundation you build your self-esteem on? They’re not just about saying “no” to others; they’re about saying “yes” to yourself. They reflect how you see yourself, what you truly believe you deserve, and how you…
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Blood Is Thicker Than Water: Unconditional Love Vs Unconditional Tolerance
Blood is thicker than water, an old proverb we use to describe how family ties should be stronger than any other relationship. Many of us think of this proverb as unconditional love, that we will love them no matter what they do and stand by their side regardless of what we think about their actions,…
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Is it Late Too Set A Boundary
Today, we’re diving straight into a question that often comes up when discussing boundaries: “Is it too late to set boundaries?” The answer is no, never. I often hear, “Well, it’s been happening for years, so it would be awkward if I said anything now.” Let’s bust some myths and explore why it’s never too…
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Unlocking Authenticity: Freeing Yourself from People-Pleasing
In last week’s blog, we delved into the intricate role that people-pleasing can play in shaping our sense of self-worth. Today, I invite you to embark on a journey with me as we explore ways to untangle ourselves from the grip of these ingrained behaviors. While this path may be paved with uncomfortable feelings, it’s…
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The Elusive Chase: The Short-Lived Thrill of External Validation and Its Insatiable Hunger
Today we will explore the intricacies of self-esteem and its relationship with people-pleasing. We will delve into the dynamics of seeking external validation and how it affects our sense of self-worth. Additionally, we’ll discuss the toll that consistently prioritizing others’ opinions can take on our emotional well-being. By the end, we hope to provide insights…
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Setting Boundaries with In-Laws: Building a Strong Team with Your Spouse
Navigating relationships with in-laws can be challenging. It’s important to understand that you are coming from outside the perspective of your partner’s family, which allows you to see the family dynamics in a different light. You might even notice patterns within your partner’s family that they don’t see. When you enter into the family, it…
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10 Ways To Tell Someone No
If you read last week’s blog and you find yourself in the people-pleasers category, this blog is perfect for you. One way to set boundaries and protect your peace is saying no to things you don’t have the time, recourse, money, energy, or desire for. Saying no is something that requires practice. Many times we…
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When You Are Tired Of Being Put In The Middle
There is a term we use in therapy called triangulation. Triangulation is when two people are in an argument, and one party brings in a second person to take their side, putting the third person in the middle. There is usually a victim, a bad-guy hero. Example – You are 10 years old, and your…
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Why Are Boundaries So Uncomfortable?
When you set a boundary, have you ever experienced this feeling in the pit of your stomach like you have done something horrible? That gut reaction tells you to take it back, so they don’t get mad at you. Here are reasons why it feels uncomfortable to set boundaries 1. People Pleasing If you are…
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Sunday Scaries
When Sunday rolls around, you start to experience dread, anxiousness, or worry. You have the Sunday Scaries. You spend the day worrying about what is to come with the week ahead. All the worrying has cut your rest time on your weekend in half. Here are some ways to deal with the Sunday Scaries. 1.…