Year: 2021
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3 Ways You Are Self-Sabotaging
Hey y’all welcome back to this week’s blog post! Let’s talk about self-sabotaging. Self-sabotaging means you are doing things that are stopping you from doing what you want or from being your best self. We all are excellent self-sabotagers. We do it all the time. Maybe you’ve gotten into a fight with your boyfriend right before going…
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Why Won’t You Apologize?
I was introduced to Harriet Learner’s work through Brene Brown’s podcast and knew I had to read the book Why Won’t You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts. Here is a snapshot of what I learned. If you continue to do the same thing over and over again you aren’t really sorry. Your apology has…
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How To Get Over A Breakup
Breakups are hard, even if it is mutual. Sometimes they are messy, sometimes they are amicable. Or worse, you play the game of breakup and get back together until you hit your limit. Regardless of how it happened, the aftermath is painful. Clients always ask me how long will the pain last? My answer? As…
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Putting Yourself First Is Not Selfish
Putting yourself first is not selfish. Saying to someone “Hey I need (insert need here),” and they get upset. That negative emotion they are experiencing is for them to hold, not for you. You are not responsible for how they respond. That is not yours to carry or feel guilty for. If establishing boundaries with…
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Finding Your Power
Clients often come to me and say they feel powerless like they have no control. I believe you have power in every situation you just have to know where to find it. You have power over: Anything that comes from your body is yours. Most of the time power or control starts from within. Advocate…
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Therapy Is Like Hiking
I took some much-needed time off for a vacation. I got to spend time on the beach and in nature – both are really restorative for me. My fiancé and I completed a 7.3-mile hike in Yosemite National Park and it was amazing. As we drove back to our hotel I began to reflect on…
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The Best Quotes From Brené Brown’s Braving The Wilderness
When I was in grad school I was introduced to Brené Brown through her video on empathy vs sympathy (link). If you haven’t watched it click the link and watch it now. I was changed forever and instantly fell in love. I’ve read several of her books, watched her videos, and listened to her podcast…
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7 Things I Learned From Why We Sleep by Mathew Walker
I try to take every opportunity I have to learn new things. I’ve really gotten into audiobooks while I am doing yard work. Yay springtime! I know like most people know sleep is important but it’s something that is truly undervalued and this book really validates that. The book can be a bit dense and sometimes…
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How To Set Boundaries
If you been following along with me you now know the when, where, why, what of boundaries. Today we will talk about how to set boundaries. 1. First, listen to your body’s response to know when to set boundaries. 2. Decide what the boundary is. This can be tricky because there isn’t always a clear-cut boundary. Sometimes we know something…
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13 Reasons Why It Is Important To Set Boundaries.
Boundaries are super important, but why? Well, here are 13 reasons why you want to establish and maintain your boundaries.