Year: 2023
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When Coping Skills Become Destructive
When life gets stressful, we have our go-to behaviors to take some of the pressure off. For some, this looks like reading a mystery novel, watching reality tv, or having dinner with a friend. While these can be great coping strategies, they also can become destructive. Like most things in life, there needs to be…
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4 Refreshing Spring Mental Health Tips
Spring is a wonderful time of year that symbolizes new beginnings and fresh starts. After the long and dark winter months, spring can bring a renewed sense of energy and optimism. As a mental health therapist, I often recommend that my clients take advantage of this time of year to refresh their mental health. Here…
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10 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic
Relationships are not always pretty. Sometimes they start out great, only to turn sour in time. How do you you know when the relationship has turned toxic? Here are 10 Signs you are in a toxic relationship. 1. Constant criticism If your partner constantly criticizes you, makes you feel inadequate, and belittles you, it is…
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What Your Attachment Style Looks Like in an Argument
When it comes to romantic relationships, our attachment style can greatly impact how we handle conflicts and arguments. Attachment styles are patterns of behavior and emotions that develop in early childhood and influence how we connect with others throughout our lives. There are four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant), each with unique characteristics…
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How To Get The Most Out Of Your Coping Skills
So you’ve gone to therapy, and your therapist tells you to try this new coping skill, You do it, but it doesn’t work. Does this mean you are a failure? No. Does this mean the coping skill is never going to work? No. How do you get the most out of your coping skills? Here…
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4 Signs You Have Outgrown Your Friends
As we grow and evolve as individuals, it is natural for us to outgrow some of the relationships we have formed over time. Not every relationship is meant to be a lifetime relationship, some are more like seasons. It is important to recognize when a friendship is no longer serving us and to take the…
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Breaking Up With A Narcissist
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can become really difficult to end the relationship. Narcissists are really good at manipulating people and poking at their weaknesses. You might have a kind heart, and feel bad when others are feeling bad, but a narcissist is going to take advantage…
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10 Ways To Tell Someone No
If you read last week’s blog and you find yourself in the people-pleasers category, this blog is perfect for you. One way to set boundaries and protect your peace is saying no to things you don’t have the time, recourse, money, energy, or desire for. Saying no is something that requires practice. Many times we…
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8 Signs You Are A People Pleaser
Wanting to make others happy is a common experience, but when it becomes destructive to yourself, we call it people-pleasing. People-pleasers often prioritize other people’s needs and desires over their own, which can lead to stress, burnout, and a lack of personal fulfillment. Here are 8 signs that you are a people pleaser. 1 .You…
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Struggling With Perfectionism
Ever find yourself stuck chasing perfection? You spend hours worrying about a project being perfect, losing sleep, stressing, and yet it’s never enough. No matter how hard you try, you can’t quite reach perfection. Or if you do, when the project is over, you are hit with a sense of emptiness, so you find a…