Tag: relationships
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Breaking Up With A Narcissist
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can become really difficult to end the relationship. Narcissists are really good at manipulating people and poking at their weaknesses. You might have a kind heart, and feel bad when others are feeling bad, but a narcissist is going to take advantage…
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How To Tell Someone To Go To Therapy
There is an infamous saying that states, “people go to therapy because of the people who didn’t go to therapy.” Many times when you are in therapy yourself, it’s hard not to see the need for other people to go to therapy, but how do you tell them without offending them? Once you start addressing…
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When You Are Tired Of Being Put In The Middle
There is a term we use in therapy called triangulation. Triangulation is when two people are in an argument, and one party brings in a second person to take their side, putting the third person in the middle. There is usually a victim, a bad-guy hero. Example – You are 10 years old, and your…
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Rose Colored Glasses
Life can be bliss if you don’t deal with your negative patterns. If you ignore them and pretend like the problem is everyone else, it’s great. Wearing rose-colored glasses can be a coping skill we develop to protect ourselves from ourselves. Unfortunately, though, wearing rose-colored glasses doesn’t come without a cost. What happens when you…
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Why Are Boundaries So Uncomfortable?
When you set a boundary, have you ever experienced this feeling in the pit of your stomach like you have done something horrible? That gut reaction tells you to take it back, so they don’t get mad at you. Here are reasons why it feels uncomfortable to set boundaries 1. People Pleasing If you are…
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How To Have A Healthy Divorce
Divorce is never an easy process, especially when you have kids. A lot of couples say they will stay together until the kids are out of school. They put on fake smiles and argue behind closed doors. They think their kids are oblivious to their marital problems, they aren’t though. Kids are very intuitive. Part…
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Black And White Thinking
Life is not black and white. In fact, most things in life are in the gray. When you think in black and white you are limiting yourself and not seeing the whole picture. This thinking can lead you to invalidate the experience of others while creating a stuckness for yourself. Here are some examples: I…
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Why You Ignore Red Flags
Why do you ignore red flags? When dating sometimes finding the red flags can be blatantly obvious and sometimes you miss them. When you see them and continue on with the relationship, later on down the road you question how you got there. Here are three reasons why you ignore red flags 1. They Are…
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5 Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship
1. Look at their parents’ relationship If you want to know what your relationship will look like with your partner look at their parent’s relationship. If your partner’s parents are divorced, chronic cheaters, yell at each other constantly, or blame each other for everything you might notice some similar patterns in your relationship. We learn…
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Healing and Your Parents
“I had good parents,” is something I hear all the time. This is a way to protect your parents from their part in your pain. A lot of time clients come in thinking they are the ones solely responsible for their hurt. You may be responsible for your behaviors and actions however, understanding where they…