Tag: relationships
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How To Heal From Your Anxious Attachment
If you’ve read my previous blog on attachment styles and you resonate with the anxious attachment this one is for you. I get asked all the time how to stop being anxiously attached and move towards secure attachment. The answer is it’s a process. You may ebb and flow out of anxious attachment to secure attachment. Here…
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Why Are Boundaries So Hard?
Boundaries are great for you and can be difficult to implement because we are scared of what might happen. Let’s say your friend Sarah is always canceling plans with you last minute and at times doesn’t give you a straight answer on whether she is attending the event you discussed. More often than not you…
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Respecting Your Own Boundaries
If you respect your boundaries eventually you will find yourself around others who also respect your boundaries. The hardest part about boundaries is enforcing them. Some people set a boundary and want to apologize for it for fear that they have upset that person. Others set a boundary but don’t enforce it. Both of these…
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4 Attachment Styles And How They Show Up In Relationships
In Emotion Focused Therapy we look at our attachment styles and how they show up in relationships. Attachment is a part of the human experience and it is shaped by our upbringing. When you are a child if your attachment needs are not met (feeling loved, valued, seen, heard, wanted, etc.) you develop an attachment…
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Why Should You Stop Ghosting People?
Dating is hard. Especially since we go through potential dates so quickly with all of the dating apps. Ghosting has become an easy way to end conversations. A way to avoid. It’s become a trend that really isn’t good for anyone. So why should you stop ghosting? Here are three reasons why: 1. You are…
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How Many Friends Should I have?
How many friends should I have? I get this a lot from people who have a lot of friends but no deep connection or from people who have one friend they are deeply connected with. From these two people, their support system is weak. One has no one they feel truly connected with and the…
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Is It Healthy For A Couple To Do Everything Together?
Is it healthy for a couple to do everything together? If we are talking literally everything the answer is no. Those couples who seem like the same person. They dress the same, have the same taste in food, enjoy the same hobbies, everything the same. In therapy, we call this enmeshment and it’s not healthy. …
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5 Ways to Bring Playfulness Back Into The Relationship
Bringing playfulness into a relationship is an essential part of the relationship’s longevity and health. Relationships take work, and so does playfulness. It’s easy to put aside the little things in relationships because they’re not huge, more-pressing problems like money issues, a draining career, or children who are fighting. But what I’ve realized is that…
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Red Flags of an Unhealthy Relationships
When getting to know the person you are dating it’s important that you notice the red flags of an unhealthy relationship. It’s likely this could take some time, not everyone shows their true colors out of the gate. Some can come up quickly like on the first date he gets waisted and others take time…
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My Partner Should Just Know How I Feel
‘My partner should just know how I am feeling,’ or ‘my partner should just know what I want,’ are two phrases I hear a lot. My response is ‘no they shouldn’t they aren’t a mind reader.’ We have this expectation that if we are in a relationship they should be attuned to our wants and…