Tag: self-esteem
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Struggling With Perfectionism
Ever find yourself stuck chasing perfection? You spend hours worrying about a project being perfect, losing sleep, stressing, and yet it’s never enough. No matter how hard you try, you can’t quite reach perfection. Or if you do, when the project is over, you are hit with a sense of emptiness, so you find a…
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5 Ways To Practice Self Love
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a day only for relationships with others. It can be about the relationship with yourself. Self-love is how you feel about yourself. While that feeling may change daily, it is important to foster a healthy love toward yourself. Here are 5 ways to practice self-love: 1. Self Care Self-care…
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Reasons To Celebrate Failure
Failure can feel like a bad thing. You may experience feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, or unworthiness when you have failed at something. These feelings can stem from what we have been taught about failure. For example, you may have learned that failure is unacceptable, and maybe your parents shamed you when you failed. As…
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Why You Ignore Red Flags
Why do you ignore red flags? When dating sometimes finding the red flags can be blatantly obvious and sometimes you miss them. When you see them and continue on with the relationship, later on down the road you question how you got there. Here are three reasons why you ignore red flags 1. They Are…
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20 Things That Don’t Equate To Your Worth
We tend to put value on things that don’t actually contribute to our worth as a human. We get stuck in a comparison trap by looking at what we have (or don’t have) and compare it to what others have. Then we take what we feel we are lacking and equate it with our worth…
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How To Heal From Your Anxious Attachment
If you’ve read my previous blog on attachment styles and you resonate with the anxious attachment this one is for you. I get asked all the time how to stop being anxiously attached and move towards secure attachment. The answer is it’s a process. You may ebb and flow out of anxious attachment to secure attachment. Here…
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Why Are Boundaries So Hard?
Boundaries are great for you and can be difficult to implement because we are scared of what might happen. Let’s say your friend Sarah is always canceling plans with you last minute and at times doesn’t give you a straight answer on whether she is attending the event you discussed. More often than not you…
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Safety and Politeness
As a woman who is also a therapist, I hear the words ‘I didn’t want to be rude,’ all of the time when women are talking about situations where they feel unsafe. Here is how this plays out. You are on a date with a guy and he buys you dinner and some drinks. He…
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3 Examples Of Negative Self Talk And What It Really Means
How you speak to yourself matters. We might not give too much thought to the negative self talk but there is a deeper meaning. We might say things like ‘I’m too fat,’ ‘no one likes me,’ or ‘I’m not doing this good enough,’ and think that’s all it means but there is more to that…
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New Year New Me
New Year, New Me! We say it every year. But how often do you actually feel renewed in the new year? Do you stick to that weight loss goal? Or that goal to get the job that makes you loads of money? New Year’s resolutions tend to fail. Why you ask? Because they are too…